There are, people say, five stages of grieving - anger, guilt, grief, acceptance, renewal. Much of this psalm is experience people have told me about, as well as words of wisdom from Robert Runcie in 1985.
- I wasn't even able to say goodbye:
why have you removed him away from me so suddenly?
- Why should this happen to me:
he had done nothing to deserve such treatment.
- They said to me, "Do not weep":
am I not to cry for the loss of my companion;
- even the greatest have wept in disappointment:
am I not also allowed to express my feelings?
- They said, "Keep busy", but already I'm exhausted:
they said, "Time will heal", but still it hasn't done so.
- Help me to manage my memories:
whatever I recall brings only pain and grief.
- Yet I find comfort in my friends:
in their presence is a token of your care;
- their loving embrace is a sign of your support:
the kindness of a handshake can speak of your graciousness.
- In your presence, I can face what has happened:
grant me to accept it, as you accept me.
- The past is not fixed for ever:
help me reap more treasures from all my experience,
- nor is the past something lost for eternity:
my friendship and my joy are not gone for ever;
- for as I remember, I glimpse what you see always:
now you see him face to face, as you see me.
- Continue to be with me as I look ahead:
give me courage to rebuild my life for your future.